A Letter to My Husband from His Chronically Ill Wife

Dear ‘the best husband in the world’,

Since you’ve become a part of my life, your life has changed. I’m not just talking in the usual ways that your life changes when you get married, but in the “my wife constantly doesn’t feel good” kinda ways. Somedays are just as hard for you as they are for me. You never know when my health is going to throw a kink in our plans, and yet you always are there to offer a smile and tell me that it’s okay if I just want to lay down instead of go out. So thank you.

Thank you for your endless cuddles when my illnesses get the best of me.

Thank you for maintaining Netflix so there is always something to watch on my bad days.

Thank you for cleaning the kitchen when I don’t feel good.

Thank you for carrying things and holding my hand when it hurts to stand up.

Thank you for looking at me like I’m the most beautiful girl in the world even when I haven’t showered or gotten out of my pajamas all day.

Thank you for always looking for a place for me to sit when we’re in a crowded place.

Thank you for learning my medications and always being willing to pick them up from the pharmacy on your way home from work.

Thank you for making random trips to Walmart for Gatorade when I get dehydrated.

Thank you for listening to me complain and gripe on the days I don’t feel good.

Thank you for holding my hand when I hurt.

Thank you for being flexible with our plans and being willing to cancel for me when I don’t feel good.

Thank you for insisting that I take care of myself.

Thank you for always asking me how I’m feeling everyday, and not being upset when the answer isn’t always positive.

Thank you for letting me lay in your lap and fall asleep during your movies.

Thank you for reminding me to take my medications and forcing me to even when I don’t want to.

Thank you for getting up in the middle of the night and warming up rags for my aching muscles.

Thank you for not making me feel guilty when we have to cancel plans.

Thank you for holding me and not waking me up even when your arms fall asleep.

Thank you for telling me that it’s gonna be okay.

Thank you for fighting for me when I feel like giving up.

Thank you for letting me cry on your shoulder and staining your white t-shirt with mascara when my body won’t let me go out like we planned.

Thank you for being my spokesman when people just don’t understand.

Thank you for telling me that the illnesses aren’t my fault.

Thank you for reminding me that I’m not any less valuable than a healthy person.

Thank you for rubbing my back and for just being there when I don’t feel good.

Thank you for not resenting me or judging how much I can or can’t do.

Thank you for being consistent and steady.

Thank you for loving me in tangible everyday ways.

Thank you for never giving up.

It takes a special person to unconditionally love a spouse with chronic illness. It’s not easy. But you do it incredibly well. Thank you, Sweetheart. You make the fight easier and the pain bearable. I love you so much.

Love,

Your wife

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